Sonderlume

Custom memorial songs, hand-written eulogies, and guided grief journals — crafted in the UK by a songwriter and author who believes every life deserves to be told well.

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sonder — the realisation that every passing life is as vivid and complex as your own  ·  lume — a light

No one teaches you how to speak at a funeral.

How to stand in front of a room and hold a whole life steady in your hands.

How to fold sixty years into four minutes. How to say the unsayable thing.

You are not supposed to know how to do this. Nobody is.

You bring the memories. I'll help you carry them.


Three ways to hold on to them

What I make

Everything here begins the same way: with you telling me about someone — their voice, their habits, the moments you keep. My job is to give those memories somewhere to live.

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Eulogies & Speeches

Written from your memories, in a voice that belongs to them — ready to read aloud. Gentle questions, a careful draft, revisions until it sounds like them.

speeches from £90 · eulogies from £150 (up to 10 min £200) Begin now → Take a moment first
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Memorial Songs

An original song written for one person — their phrases, their places, the way they filled a room. Lyrics approved by you before a note is produced.

from £195 · £250 fuller song · £350 with tribute video Begin now → Take a moment first
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Grief Journals

Guided journals for the long quiet after — the loss of a parent, a partner, a pregnancy, a much-loved pet. Made to be picked up on the hard days.

available on Etsy

Prices shown in GBP for reference. Bookings are processed via Fiverr in USD, so the exact charge may vary slightly with the exchange rate at checkout.

Once you begin, I'll ask a few gentle questions — their name, any time limit you've been given, a handful of memories or qualities you want included, and the tone you're after. Nothing more than that. Take your time; there's no rush here.

Have a question before you begin? Email hello@sonderlume.com — no obligation, just a conversation.

The process

How working together feels

I

You tell me about them

Through a short, gentle set of questions — written, in your own time, no calls unless you'd like one.

II

I write

Carefully, from what you've shared. Specific, honest, and in a voice that belongs to them — never a template.

III

You shape it

You'll see every word before it's final. Revisions are part of the work, not an extra.

IV

It's yours

To read at a service, to gift, to keep. Something that holds them, for the days you need it.

Why I do this

It began with
one song

Sonderlume began with a song I wrote for my own father after he died. Writing it didn't fix anything — grief doesn't work that way — but it gave the love somewhere to go. That's what I make for other people now.

I'm a UK-based songwriter and author. Every commission is read, written, and rewritten by me personally.

How each piece is made: the lyrics and words are hand-written, every time. The music is produced with professional AI tools — and I'm always transparent about that.